Why Choose Therapeutic Coaching?
Here's just a few reasons why it could be good for you...
Feeling Lost
Feeling lost can manifest in different ways – being unsure if the path you are following is right for you; feeling you are going round in circles and getting no-where; or being so caught up in the thicket you can’t even see a path.
One reason you feel lost is when we have been living out someone else’s idea of what your life should be rather than your own. For example, following a career that your parents approved of rather than one closer to your true interests, or seeking material possessions – a faster car, a bigger home – because you believe this is how success is measured rather than stopping to ask yourself what success really means for you.
A Therapeutic Coach will help you build your awareness of your thoughts, beliefs and the choices these have led to, that are creating your sense of being lost. They will then support you in taking the steps you need to establish a clear sense of purpose and direction, so you can make the changes you need to get on your way.
Disconnected
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We feel disconnected when we are not able to fully engage with another person. It doesn’t just mean awkward social interactions, it can manifest as feeling lonely within a relationship or even in a room full of people, as if there is some invisible barrier between you and the other.
There are many reasons that can create this difficulty. You may be anxious about what the other person thinks of you, or feel embarrassed to be yourself – not wanting to slip up, and you may be silently judging the other person. All of these things will create thoughts that get in the way of hearing what the other person has to say and prevents you from being curious and asking questions that would enable you to get to know the person better.
A Therapeutic Coach will help you become aware of the thoughts and underlying beliefs you have about others and yourself that may be getting in the way of what you want. Creating a relationship with the coach will help you to build your social skills and provide a safe space in which you can explore and practice different ideas and approaches so you can build competence, which in turn will boost your confidence.
If your challenge is a sense of disconnection in an existing relationship working with a coach will help you explore your needs, understand the role you are playing within the relationship and support you to make the changes that will enable you to find the connection you are looking for.
Left Behind
When our children move out of the family home and set off for their future lives there can be a huge sense of loss for parents. Its not just the physical space that is no longer filled by the children, there is less laundry, less food to buy and prepare, less tidying up, less conversation, and running around to events and sports fixtures, friends coming and going, heart aches and heart breaks, highs and lows.
The kicker is that your whole purpose as a parent was to enable them to grow and develop into independent young adults and if you did the job right – you get left behind.
Finding your purpose again after the children leave home can be quite challenging. Many parents have done such a great job focusing on their children and supporting all their interests they have forgotten what they enjoyed doing just for themselves.
A Therapeutic Coach can help you rediscover your interests and reignite your passions so you can decide what you want the next phase of your life to look like and feel like. Together you can identify new goals and the skills and resources you have to achieve these, so you can move forward with energy and excitement.
Lonely & Listless
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When you were working you may have had an ideal vision of your life when you no longer had to set the alarm to get up in the morning, attend meetings that made you daydream of changing your career or endure the daily commute. It most likely included having time to play bowls or bridge with friends and take afternoon strolls and nap whenever you felt like it. And for some people at the end of a rewarding career that is enough.
However, for others, after a few months of this reality they start to feel like something is missing and as pleasurable as the games with friends are their purpose has changed. They are no longer the much-needed respite to relax and recharge between workdays they become the highlight of the day, the reason to get up, the social connection we need. Viewed in this way they may not provide the sense of purpose and fulfilment that we want in our life.
You have decades of valuable knowledge and experience and having rested for a few months you may have more energy than when you retired. Rather than just being a consumer you want to get out and create something new and may be unsure what that looks like or if people will take you seriously. Working with a Therapeutic Coach can help you address those concerns and reconnect with ideas you may have had years ago but were too busy working to follow through. Together you can explore the skills you have and new ones you want to acquire so you can redefine retirement and do it in a way that brings you joy and fulfilment.
Disconnected
Relationship difficulties
When you start an intimate relationship you bring your "best self" and a whole bag of unexpressed expectations about what you want from your "ideal partner". They do the same thing. After a while as the stress and complexity of real life takes the shine off the newness of things, there is an adjustement into something that falls short of perfect but is more realistic to maintain over time, at least for a while.
This can create a sense of dishilusionment on both sides but you still have a whole lot of love to give and commitment to your relationship. Over time, frustration grows when you just can't seem to get on the same page; communication shifts from loving to a series of criticisms and either angry outbursts or cold withdrawls. Neither of you feels supported and you are left wondering where the warm, secure feeling of being in this together for the rest of your lives went.
As well as being a source of frustration, our intimate relationships can be an amazing source of learning and personal growth. This requires courage and commitment and a willingness to focus on creating the relationship you want, not on the shortcomings of your partner.
A Therapeutic Coach will help you both to redefine what you want from your relationship, understand what changes you need to make to move towards that ideal and establish a new commitment to support each other in that endeavor. An important part of the work is identifying the needs you both bring to the relationship that you expect the other person to meet. These may be needs that were not met in your early years and may indicate an area for personal growth. Through coaching you will learn to take care of these needs yourself, relieving your partner from a responsibility they cannot meet. Through this process you will both grow as individuals and strengthen your relationship.
